Breaking Free from the ‘Until’ Script: TA and the Unconscious Mind

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The "Until" script, a concept in transactional analysis, a psychotherapy developed by Eric Berne, depicts a common tendency to believe that happiness is only achievable once specific conditions are met. It's like chasing a carrot on a stick, always thinking that joy is just within grasp if we accomplish certain tasks or reach particular goals.

This script can stem from our innate desire for structure, control, and even external validation. It's like we convince ourselves that by delaying gratification and dutifully fulfilling obligations, we'll eventually secure the happiness we crave and that's why we can't experience it right now. Societal norms and cultural expectations can further reinforce this belief system.

While it can help us to work hard and make sacrifices, it can also reinforce the idea that happiness comes at a price and is limited, a notion that can lead to excessive self denial, emotional neglect, chronic stress, and inability to experience the present moment and celebrate victories.

To break free from this script, we must challenge deeply ingrained beliefs and embrace the idea of intrinsic worth and value. By understanding that joy is not something to be earned but rather a natural state of being, we can liberate ourselves from the confines of the "Until" script.

Remember: Present joy doesn't take away from our ability to exert efforts and achieve future goals.

In fact, it helps us to.